The Treat of the Trade

On a previous post i talked about yelling. That is still going well. I am yelling less. And i am also less stressed. I ran across this quote and it got me to thinking about who i want the girls to be when they are older. What kind of example I am setting for them...etc. I also thought long and hard about the example their dad sets for how a man should treat a lady. I think we are good in that department. The girls have told me several times that they admire our relationship. We both have someone we can be ourselves with and laugh and learn together. We share the same interest and have different ones as well and that gives us something to talk about at the end of the day. The girls will hopefully have long lasting relationships in life and a happy marriage.  I think about the kind of woman Jaxon might end up with. Will she be similar to his mom or the complete opposite.  Your kids are watching and listening even if you don't think they are. They might n...

As a mom, we yell. We aren't always proud of it after the fact, but we do it because we feel it gets our point across. After the 4th time of being told, not ask, but told to do something our voice gets louder then the kids get pissy and now your moody and an argument might break out. Then everything will be ok until the next time. As a mom, we want to also keep the peace and be fair while teaching our kids not to be little brats and to be independent and learn to grow with things they are taught at home. But as soon as you are relaxed and taking a break from the norm, it seems things get chaotic.  I don't run a military boot camp per say, but i do run this house on organized chaos. Is that a thing? If not then I invented it. I have 3 kids i am raising and they are all different ages. They are all different kids. One may not need to be constantly told over and over to do something and the other 2 might. I treat them all different. But sometimes I yell. As moms we al...

i am. i really am a nice person. i was raised to be polite.  sometimes i am too nice and give the wrong people too many chances all to be let down again.  i give people the benefit of the doubt way more often than i should.  the world and mean people, that weren't raised to be polite, have hardened me. makes me trust less. makes me call people out on their BS right off the bat. therefore makes me look like the mean one. even though i had been nice to them many many times. i let them talk bad about me. take advantage of me too long. then, when i stand up for myself, i'm the bitch.  but have you ever asked yourself why? what was it that you said or did? what was it that you didn't say or didn't do? i also fight my own battles. i don't have my parents or siblings do it for me. i don't have my husband do it for me. i do it. i say words and decide who i want in my life. i do it all on my own. i am normally shy and quiet when i first meet y...

When I started losing my hair, of course I was certain it would grow back. It didn't. From April 2012 to November 2016 I never went out in public without a hat on. I think I wore a wig 3 different times and didn't like it.  So many times people would approach me asking what cancer I had. If I was in remission. They would look at me and treat me as if I was sick, contagious and/or dying. When I would tell them about Alopecia and how it was a sudden onset, they would either feel really sorry for me or act as if something was terribly wrong. I mean--its hair! Whats wrong with someone if they lost AND cant regrow hair, right? After giving up on Dr's, I decided to get a tattoo. On my head. Hats are hot and annoying. I live in a part of the country that is flat and 50mph winds are considered a light breeze. So imagine dealing with holding a hat on your head as you carry in groceries or hold your sons hand. It got highly annoying. So I wanted to do away with hats an...

The pictures are out of order and that's ok. I'm happy they found a project from start to finish. Usually Jaxon is ready and willing and 3 minutes in he wants to ride his bike or play video games.  Dad set out a plan to build the dogs a new house and off they went. After a trip to the hardware store they were finished in a few days. I love that the dogs have a new home. Away from the elements when we aren't home, but what i really love about this project is that it made memories for dad and Jaxon. They sure are proud of that new house!!