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Mother's Day. As told by a Step-Mom





 
"Step-moms are by no means trying to take credit for carrying a baby for nine months and taking part in the birthing process. We get it. We are not the Bio-mom. However, we are in a mothering role and we deserve to be recognized." -- Unknown
 
I don't need anyone to like how I do things, except for these 2 girls right here. I couldn't care less what their moms think of me, what their moms families think of me and what their moms friends think of me. I am pretty fucking amazing without any of their opinions. At the end of the day all that matters is that MY 2 daughters love and respect me. And I have that. Every.Single. Day. With no help from the bio-moms or their families, the girls have learned to love and respect me on their own. Has it been easy for one of them? No! But I can guarantee that she has way more love and respect for me than she does her own mom. The woman that wanted to bring her into this world, now has a daughter being raised by a woman she absolutely hates. I feel soooo sorry for her. We could have been friends. We could have been in this together. I didn't push them away, they chose to step down. So I took on a role that most step-moms would not have done. I know people that have step-kids and they only see them at holidays and some not at all because they don't want that burden, the trouble, the drama, the feeling of constantly being watched and judged.
 
"Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother" -- Unknown
 
When my husband was in a position to gain full custody of his daughters we both sat down and talked. He made sure I was OK with it all. He wasn't wanting to put this on me unless I was 150% ok with it. I knew he came with a family. I loved him anyway. Josh is a damn good father that does not get the credit he deserves because the moms may hate him for their past. The girls didn't ask to be brought into this world and they sure didn't ask for their parents to not make it together. But things happen and Josh and I do what WE feel is best for OUR girls. Although he has also tried maintain a healthy relationship with their moms, they weren't having it. Or members of their families weren't having it. So we just do us and we continue to live happily ever after.
 
"A step-parent is so much more than a parent: They made the choice to love when they didn't have to."  -- Step-parents everywhere
 
I am not posting this for any kind of pat on the backs, job well dones, thanks yous. I am posting this because being a step-mom isn't just sitting around waiting for the bio-moms to like us. Believe me the 3 of us have all done our share on waiting around for the bio-moms to do anything! I am a MOM of 2 very beautiful girls. All while raising my own kiddo. It isn't easy. But its getting easier everyday. I love the girls like they were my own, because now they are my own. My name isn't on their birth certificate, but their names will forever be on my heart.
So, as another Mother's Day has come and gone, I enjoyed my day with MY kids.
 
 
 
(photo cred: their little brother)
 
 
 
 
 
 

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